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Open Letter to Christian Broadcaster Todd Friel: Your Words Wound Adoptive Families


 Dear Sir:

 My name is D.E. Cantor, and I am an adoption activist and writer. I am writing to express my disappointment and disagreement with the Aug. 1, 2013, Youtube clip of the “Wretched TV” broadcast, “Wretched: Adoption’s Quiet Secret” in which you assert that children exhibiting bad behavior to an “extreme” extent are predominantly adopted. I would like to categorically state at this point that because I am not a subscriber to the Internet broadcast, I was unable to see the complete show.

Mark Massey, an executive director of from the Victory Academy for Boys, a private school described on their website as a “Christian therapeutic school for boys ages 12-17,” asserts that the issues with identity, which are common for adopted children, are the cause of the psychological and behavioral problems of sixty percent of the boys sent to the school.

While you do reference that the nature of the Christian families may bias this surprisingly large percentage and that all families are different, the discussion takes a disturbing turn toward elaborating that these psychological and behavioral problems are standard in adopted families.

To be clear, the vast majority of children in treatment centers for substance abuse problems and mental health issues, schools for those with behavioral difficulties and within the juvenile justice system are not adopted. The vast majority of adults who are or were the tenants of jails, prisons and mental hospitals were not adopted as children.

Also, let us be clear on another point. While there have been studies that indicated a significant difference in the correlation of childhood difficulties or adult outcomes for children of other demographics, such as those of single parents, or of differing economic statuses, there has never been a significant study showing a significant difference in the correlation between adoption and those difficulties and outcomes. Or, in other words, studies have shown a notable difference in percentages concerning high school graduation between children of single mothers and those in two-parent homes, studies have not shown such a difference between adopted children and those raised by their biological parents. While such correlations, when they are observed to occur, do not prove causation, and pundits can argue what factors enable or disable the completion of high school or other outcomes, for adopted children no such correlations exist.

You are correct in your assertion that devout Christians adopt children more than other people. I pray that you have not dissuaded them from doing so.


D. E. Cantor

(The Youtube clip mentioned in the article is at http://youtu.be/llst2J_C6Tk.) 



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The Adopted Child Cost Caste System: The Shocking Truths Behind U.S. Adoption’s Economic Racial Hierarchy

The issue is virtually unknown to those other than adoptive parents and those who are close to them. Conversely, it touches on a myriad of other issues involving adopting children and the minefield of racial politics of this culture.

In the United States, there are different costs for adopting children of different races, with white children costing the most to adopt. Explanations vary as to both why this situation exists and what it means for adoptive parents and children. While age and gender are more common factors than ethnicity or race for parents interested in adopting children, with infants and girls being the most popular preferences, some parents state that they would rather adopt white children.

Their reasons vary. Most parents interested in adopting children are white, and the appeal to some is to have children that look more “like them.” To others, there is the understandable desire to avoid the challenges of transracial adoption, which parents who choose to adopt children of different races face, in addition to the other challenges faced by both other adoptive parents and faced by all parents, biological and by choice. A third reason is the past controversy regarding and opposition to white parents adopting black children that resulted in high-profile cases and the 1995 film, “Losing Isaiah,” based on the novel of the same title, in which Halle Berry portrays a black recovering drug addict who contests the adoption by a white woman of the baby she lost due to her habit. The yearning to adopt white children and the high cost and excessive regulation of adoption in this country lead many parents to adopt children from Eastern Europe, who are more likely than their American counterparts to have problems with adapting to a new family and a new life and other psychological problems.

“In the context of placement, what we see is the preferred child is the healthy, white infant,” said Beth Hall, founder of Pact, An Adoption Alliance. “And, there’s a racial hierarchy that moves away from there for children of color.”

The fees associated with adopting an African-American child typically range from $5,000 to $15,000. For Latino children, fees typically range from $7,000 and $20,000. To adopt a white child can cost as much as $35,000, said Hall in the documentary, “Adopted: The Movie.”

Quite obviously, this is problematic in the slight it inflicts on children that others are valued more than they are. A less obvious problem is one of discrimination, with the children who present a greater expense to adopt being discriminated against compared to those who cost less due to the adoption fee system worsening their chances at adoption compared to other children due to their race.

While many find this racial caste system for children in need of parents shocking, offensive and abhorrent, it does have its defenders. The justification for it rests on three main points. The first is supply-and-demand, with some children being judged as having more or less potential “buyers” than others, and this leading to their differing “prices.” A related argument is that having a lesser “price tag” encourages parents to consider adopting children of another race. Another justification is that the higher fees to adopt white children can then be put to use in making other children cheaper to adopt.

Therefore, apologists for the current system argue, that it actually helps the children others see it as slighting.


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