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Thoughts on the UCC Shooting

I really do not want to write this.

I really feel I need to.

Another mass shooter who was “involuntary celibate,” a pedantic way of saying that he did not have sex, but wanted to, unlike those who choose celibacy for spiritual or religious reasons or for mental, physical and emotional health. Celibacy as a choice has a lot to recommend it.

So amid the usual rhetoric from the usual chatterers about gun control, race, gender, misogyny and online misogyny, might I suggest another reason?

We are in a culture that values physical attractiveness, in other words people seeing you and wanting to have sex with you above all else. We are in a culture where the worth of a man is too often rated by his ability to have sex with multiple women, the women he chooses and the woman other heterosexual men find attractive.

As a culture, we tell many men that they are not as good as other men because women do not want them as much as they want other men. This thinking is flawed. There have been awesome men, men who found cures for diseases, invented things that made our world better and created great works of art, who were not exactly chick magnets. We have men of low character, who have contributed nothing to this world, who have women fighting over them. There is no correlation between a man’s character, talent or contribution to society and women being attracted to him, just like there is no correlation between race or ethnicity and moral goodness and just like there are good poor people and evil rich people.

The pickup artist subculture, a by-now well-known community in which self-styled “pickup gurus” make fortunes on seminars, DVDs book and I don’t know what else on the connection between self-esteem and sexual success, as much if not more than it does sex drive. In other words, heterosexual men want to feel good about themselves as much if not more than they want to have sex with women.

Men (of all races, in case you are the kind of person who needs this spelled out for you) at the low end of the socioeconomic scale pride themselves and regain a sense of self-esteem and their own masculinity via sexual conquests. Men who are good at making money and nothing else garner envy through the well-known phenomenon of trophy wives.

I will cut to the chase here. We tell many men, many young men, that they do not have value and do not have a right to self-esteem because they are not attractive to women. They see a world around them where everyone else seems to be having more sex, having more fun and having more self-esteem than this culture will allow them to have.

To state the obvious, none of this is an excuse or any kind of a justification for killing other people. To again state the obvious, most of these young men do not become mass shooters.
But some do. And I wish we as a society could reach them before they become so twisted in hate and rage.


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Laura Mulvey’s “Male Gaze,” Patrick Howley’s Looking at Breasts and Sam Seder Saying Howley Has a “Sweet” Butt

The “male gaze” is a film theory that describes the camera taking the view of a heterosexual male character, e.g. James Bond looking up and down a woman’s curves, first discussed by feminist film theorist Laura Mulvey, who, also, said there was a “female gaze,” which is the exact same thing. Art critic John Berger expanded the idea to art.

While the theory of male or female gaze works well for film and art, it falters when used to describe real human beings looking at each other in the real world. When used to describe men looking at women on the street or women looking at professional soccer players, it has become the giant chink in the armor of those who write about gender relations and, specifically, sexual harassment. To be clear, sexual harassment is a real thing. And, to be clear, women in Renaissance paintings and soccer players on TV screens do not experience it.

In this Ali-Frazier clash of professional left-winger Sam Seder (radio host) and professional right-winger Patrick Howley (journalist), Seder and Howley debate whether women like polite compliments (on their appearance) and/or like sexual harassment by strangers yelling things about their buttocks and breasts while they are trying to go about their lives in public. The context is Howley recently wrote a piece for “The Daily Caller” entitled, “Liberals Want to Stop Men from Checking Out Women,” with the debate somehow growing to encroach on other topics such as President Obama, vandalizing Jewish and Sikh temples, a future “owned” by conservatives, progressive and conservative visions of America, McCarthyism, black lists, the press’ coverage of the Tea Party, Rush Limbaugh calling Sandra Fluke a slut and a belief in his infallibility (which is not part of the Council of Trent), the male gaze, liberals wanting to make it illegal for women to fantasize about/dream about women, “so-called” rape culture, the gap in “outrage” between men looking at women and women looking at men and these amazing quotes:

“Liberals want to make it a crime for men to . . . dream about . . . to fantasize . . . about women.”

“Women are like Indians now.”

“If I look at a woman, who I think is attractive, I think I’m acknowledging her humanity.”

“If you assault someone, that’s a crime, and rightfully so.”

“You’ve painted me into a tight spot with the swastika.”

“Maybe, catching a side glance of some cleavage on the subway isn’t for you. Why ban things that you might want to try some time?”

“How would the progressives go about banning catching a side glance of some cleavage on the subway?”

“No study is completely bipartisan.”

“What if a coworker comes up to you and says, ‘You have really nice breasts. I’m checking them out over here,” is that sexual harassment? . . . Let’s just say you and I for that matter, Patrick. If I come up to you, and I’m your managing editor, and I say to you, ‘Patrick, you know, I’ve been checking out your butt. You’re looking pretty sweet. You’ve got some nice stuff in your pants there.’ Is that sexual harassment?”

“I’m against the idea of the government saying, ‘This is sexual harassment.’ . . . Human behavior should not be regulated.”

“Has there been a lot of women who have written pieces saying, ‘Thank god Patrick has stuck up for us. I believe in Nixon’s idea of a silent majority,’?”

“I don’t think that looking at tits is illegal now,”

“I’m not saying looking at tits is any kind of noble pursuit, but it’s one more freedom.”

Q: “What does President Obama have to do with ogling women on the subway?”
A: “That’s part of his agenda.”

“The whole point of the (Obama) second term agenda is there is no more staring at tits.”

“. . . a lot of times these things these things that are demonized, that are so vilified, like the male objectifying gaze, for instance, in theory, maybe they’re evil and they’re awful, and it’s the Koch brothers and Ted Cruz pushing their radical agenda . . .”

“Your vision of America . . . was rejected before you were even born. You were not even an ogle in your father’s eye when your vision of America was rejected.”

“That is his right to call her a slut if he wants to. It is his right to be a Christian if he wants to.”

“So, if we all just sat back, cracked open some cool ones and looked at some breasties together and said, ‘Hey, honey, you have a nice rack,’ that would bring the country together? Now, there would be unity? That would take care of income inequality?”

Patrick Henry’s Original Article:

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December 11, 2013 · 1:33 pm

The Secrets of Mary Magdalene

Perhaps, the greatest story ever of sin and redemption.

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September 8, 2013 · 9:03 pm